Many people go into relationships with their partners expecting it to last, most end up being disappointed, as love can grow or fade, it all depends on the partners, and how they continually work on the relationship, it’s only when they stop working on it that they may fall out of love.
Falling in love is quite easy, but staying in love is very difficult, as maintaining the feelings as time goes on is an upheaval task. Not to worry, scientists have outlined way by which we can fall deeper in love with our partners.
1. Give Them Your Attention.
There are times when we get so busy and engrossed with work, that we literally forget about our partners, or neglect them at times, this is totally wrong and not the way to go, you must give your relationship utmost priority, that’s the only way for it to grow.
You must give time for regular connections with your partners, this can only be done by giving them attention, as that helps the love to last, here are some tips that may look like small efforts, they make a big difference and your partner would appreciate them.
A. Listen to them
B. Make them tea or coffee
C. Incubate with them for a short while
D. Ask about their day
E. Give them a hearty compliment
F. Give them a message of support
2. Face Problems Together
Problems must be encountered, it’s an integral part of life, however, being alone in times of problems can be psychologically disturbing and disappointing, but at times, we feel like handling our problems ourselves, and leaving our partners out of it.
This isn’t particularly helpful, it’s much better when we ask for the opinions of our partners, listen to their advice, and seek their support. Treat them and make them get that feeling that you can always count on them, and you will learn more things about them that would make you fall more in love with them.
You should also try as much as possible to resolve fights or arguments together, it should be you both on one side, and the issue on the other side, that way, fights and arguments are resolved in an healthy way, and makes couple stick together.
3. Make More Physical Contact
Having physical contact with one’s partner is one of the ways of strengthening the bonds of the relationship, holding each other’s hands, cuddling, and other physical touch, gives one’s love life an healthy boost.
When one makes physical contact with one’s partner, an hormone called oxytoxin is produced, this neurotransmitter boost positive thinking, makes one feel good, and it’s a bonding hormone that increases mutual trust, and helps get closer to one’s partner.
4. Spend Quality Time Together
Not all partners can recall the last time they spent time together. Clinical psychologist, Dr. Joshua Klapow states that doing things together that involves just the two partners is very important. It creates unique moments that can be shared and held onto, this helps in increasing the bond.
Here are some of the ways you can spend quality time together:
A. Take a walk together
B. Have a lovely cooked dinner at home
C. Go for a short holiday during breaks
D. Cuddle in front of the screen and catch up on shows
E. Just hang out
Most long term relationships fall out as one or both partners gets more busy and doesn’t make out time for one another, making efforts towards it can save the relationship as a whole.
5. Find New Experiences
Adventures can be fun, teaches us more about the other person, and brings us closer with them. Jonathan Bennett, a dating and relationship expert, opined that it is scientifically proven that trying new things, most especially the exciting ones, helps one feel more satisfied in a relationship. Here are some tips:
A. Go on a day trip to somewhere new
B. Play new games
C. Take a class together
D. Try a new type of date you’ve never done e.g massage date
E. Try an adrenaline generating activity together, e.g skydiving