The beginning of a new relationship can be a tricky course to navigate. It is very important to follow few things when someone moves into a relationship to save it from being a relation-shit. Here are 10 ground rules for a new relationship that everyone should be following:
1. Behaviour in Public:
People have different comfort levels when it comes to couples behaviour in public. Know the limit (holding hands, smooching, heated necking on the subway platform) and don't cross it.
2. Once a week:
Decide on one day every week you can spend together, no one else invited. Just you and your partner together.
3. No suffocation or restrictions:
Being together is great; acting like conjoined twins is not. Respect each other's space and don't take it so seriously if he asks for some time to himself and avoid putting restrictions.
4. Do not talk about the future until it's time to talk about the future.
Nothing freaks a guy out like the prospect of kids before he's actually ready to have them. Don't think he doesn't want to be with you if he shies away from the topic. He just enjoys the way things are and isn't quite ready to add a mini-me to the mix. So do not start anything of this sort.
5. Forge friendships with your partner's pals.
Not that you have to be one of the bros, but it's nice to him (and you) if you feel comfortable around his buddies and will help you in your relationship as well.
6. Don't forget your own friendship:
Don't drop the friends who were with you before he showed up. Ditching the girls will lead to feelings of resentment and neglect and if your relationship comes to an end, you will want that circle of support
7. Don't hide things from partner:
You don't need to tell him about the time you hooked up with your father's golf buddy, but it's probably a good idea to tell him you're still friends with your ex before he runs into the two of you on the street things will not be good enough.
8. No assumptions or guessing games.
Don't force him to guess what you really mean by, "It's OK if we don't go out on my birthday." Being upfront with your feelings will prevent many conflicts and sometimes its ok even if he forgets some things.
9. How You Act On Social Media
Social media posts are kind of like PDA. You might be happy to post all the details of your romance online, but your partner might not. And it could just be a matter of having co-workersand family members on social media that your partner doesn't want involved in your private lives. Or, you could both be all about sharing. Or maybe you don't like the idea of your partner chatting with exes online. The point is, you need to share your feelings before you share your status and respect those digital boundaries.
10. How You Will Have Sex:
Violating sexual boundaries isn't just unhealthy, it's abuse, and in many cases, it's a crime. These boundaries don't just include what you're comfortable doing in the bedroom, but how often and with whom. In abusive or unhealthy relationships, one partner often pressures the other into uncomfortable or unsafe sex acts without their consent. That's why talking about your sex lives, and talking about it often, is so key. Plus there's no worse mood killer than pulling a sexy move that your partner is not cool with, So be careful of it.