I’m at that stage in life when the topic of discussion shifts to ‘when are you getting married’ in a matter of moments wherever I go. The concerns people raise as to why my ‘time is getting over’ are many:
1. Ideally, I should have tied the knot by now, since I’m already 32.
2. The more I delay the less choice of women I leave myself with.
3. When will I have kids!
Basically, by delaying the whole process, the ‘pool’ which I can choose from keeps reducing, which shall ultimately lead to the time when I start asking Santa Claus about finding the right woman for me.
Me: For Christmas I want a unicorn.
Santa: Be realistic.
Me: Ok I want an amazing wife.
Santa: Ok. What colour do you want your unicorn?
The thing is, I don’t feel the need to get married, which is why I’m not really signing up for those wedding portals, or actively looking out for Mrs Right. Instead, I keep settling for Miss Right Now.
But as I mentioned, whenever I meet family or those close to me, the topic of discussion always comes back to marriage.
Consider the following conversation which took place a few months back.
I had dropped in at someone’s house, and there in the drawing room with me were an aunty I’ve known since I was a kid. Within maybe three minutes of me entering their house and sitting on the sofa, the topic of discussion had come straight to when was I giving them the ‘good news’.
Me: The moment I find a girl who I feel I would want to spend the rest of my life with, and she feels the same about me, I’ll get married. And if I don’t then I’ll never get married.
Aunty:Oho, ye galat hai.
Me: Why!?
Aunty: All this you shall get to know during your old age, right now you’re just enjoying. Later on you’ll get lonely.
Me: But I can always check myself into an old age home for company, or get a dog or cat. Also what is the guarantee of my partner always supporting me or being there for me or the marriage lasting or being successful?
Plus, knowing the huge amounts of money we have to spend on weddings, I’m very cautious about spending so much on something that doesn’t have a guarantee.
Aunty:Ye sab mazaak choro, thora serious ho jao. Aren’t you going around with anyone? No need to tell your mom if you don’t want to, tell us at least!
Me: I keep going around, but haven’t found anyone for marriage yet. Anyways, what is the harm in not getting married ever?